More Musings on Lemons

Well, I think my head and my heart are finally in agreement that it is going to be another 3 years yet before we bring Ladybug home. Along with that comes the probability that she will be our one and only.

The journey has not been a picnic. "It will be worth it in the end" makes me want to throw up. I'm coming to terms that the wait is worth it NOW.

I've seen many of my cyber friends' marriages crumble under the stress of adopting from China. I think that our marriage is stronger for it. I am convinced now more than ever that I truly married my soul mate and my best friend. It isn't without its problems, but it is a great marriage and I wouldn't change one minute of it. With out the wait, it may have taken me years to realize the treasure I have in my dear husband.

Many of our friends tell us "Enjoy your free time now, because once you have kids you won't have any." We have taken that to heart. We have sleep-in days, naps in the afternoon, take day trips, plan big vacations. We enjoy grown-up TV shows and movies. And this has strenthened our relationship and our enjoyment of life.

I truly think this will help us be better parents, as well. We've had 11 years together as a married couple. We've spent 7 years waiting for a child to come into our lives. My sincere hope is that I have no regrets about having a child, that I never wish that I had one more "sleep in day", never wish I could have just one day to myself, never offer my child to a friend (or stranger) because "I just need a break." I hope this wait will prepare me to embrace the busy-ness that a child brings into the home.

So you will forgive me, dear blog reader, if I post here less often about the adoption. Since we are now through the Review Room, there really is no news to tell until we get referral 3 years from now. I will continue to post interesting happenings in our family, but I imagine that updates will be sparse.

Under the interesting happenings category, B received an award this week from a law enforcement agency because of his work on a case that helped put a loan shark in jail and ensure that his victims receive restitution. I've posted a picture from the night. It was a great evening in a grand old building!

Hope all is well in your neck of the woods!

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